The Grand Gesture

‘Round about this time of year, you see them. Some guy proposes to his girlfriend on the Jumbotron at a ball game, hires a billboard, or a skywriter, or projects “Will you marry me?” on the moon with lasers. This individual asks us all to join him in his grand gesture, supposedly to show what lengths he will go to in order to make his intended happy.

If she is won over by this lavish display, the resulting wedding will no doubt contain more flourishes and flounces than the most decadent Las Vegas stage show. Fast forward a few years, and this same couple is filing for divorce. What happened? How could their life together have failed so soon when it had such a spectacular beginning? Well, I’m not a marriage counselor; I don’t even play one on TV, but I do have a failed marriage in my past so let me give you my two pennies.